Best friend.
People toss around this word about the person whom they lived and continues to live life with. The one person who knows their secrets unknown to many, shares inside jokes and intimate memories with… The list goes on.
The truth is I never had a best friend.
For the most of my life, I moved from one friendship to another. It was so easy for me to connect to people, but once I made an attachment to one person, the relationship was cut off soon after, if not immediately. Looking back, they were temporary connections that did not dig deeper beyond mutual, but shallow interests and morals. From the series of these friendships over a number of years, I grew a void in my heart. I found it easy to give my heart to someone after a moment of bonding, but the hurt would be that much greater when that person leaves my life.
Over the years, I lost trust in the concept of a best friend. I don’t think there is such thing as one. Or at least not amongst men. The friendship I found in my heavenly Father revived the concept in my life. As I began to build a relationship with the Lord as my best friend, I found so much more stability in my relationships with people from the ability to see and love them with His love.
People say one of the ways they receive God’s love is through His children. It’s true.
Ever since the start of college, I befriended so many wonderful people. They came in and out of my life and left an imprint that embbeded into who I am now. After three years of meeting people and building relationships, I am left with handful of brothers and sisters who I know I will run the race of life with.
I’ve never felt happier.
To be honest, I was never surrounded by a group of people whom I felt like I could be myself (not just the normal side, but the craziest to the stupidest) around and speak what I truly feel in my heart without having a slight second of worry about how they may see or even judge me. But these brothers and sisters know the deepest cuts and greatest victories of my heart after many months or years of together laboring in prayer, shedding tears, and sharing sins and secrets and struggles unrevealed for years. They laid hands on me during the brutal seasons, laughed with me in the joyous moments, and simply embraced me in silence when no other words can express their love and care for me. They uplift, encourage, and challenge me in ways I never experienced in my relationships before college.
The love I receive from them is so mind-boggling to me. It’s just plain weird sometimes. I randomly have these thoughts going through my head: “man, I don’t know how they deal with me… I can be so unlovable.” But regardless of the doubts in my mind, I still know they love, accept, and embrace me for who I am. The only answer that rings in my heart is.. the Father’s love. It’s so strange to me. For the most of my life, I pushed away people so easily if they began to hurt me despite how close I have become to them. It was so easy for me to adjust to a new friendship to recover from the other. But now God has placed specific brothers and sisters in my life whom I know I will run the race of life with. It’s not a mere guess or thought, but a deep conviction that rises from within. I just know that I will work, serve, and love with them for the rest of my life… or until Jesus returns. And that conviction brings me so much joy. Because that is just an evidence of the ever-increasing love of God in my life.
Last year, God placed a seed of challenge in my heart. He challenged me to pursue my friendships with His sacrificial and selfless love. At first, I missed God’s intention to not only solidify my community, but to bring healing from my past in this process. Recently His intentions have become clearer and I feel an increase of His Grace in my life. I love the challenge of loving not only parts of people, but also their whole. Before I brushed off friendships when I faced their weaknesses and shortcomings – a reflection of my insecurities and fears. But now by God’s Grace and Love that overflows, I am able to love and persevere and learn with the people in my life. Through loving, I feel the gaps between my and my Father’s heart closing in as I feel His heartbeats ringing louder against mine. It’a a beautiful process that equate miracles.
Sadly though, we are all human. We’ll make mistakes and hurt one another. And even my closest beloved sisters and brothers will never fully know my heart, as I will never know theirs. They know parts of me, but will never understand the fullness of my past, present, and future. There is only one person who falls into this category.
My God, Lord, Abba Father… my Best friend.
He is the only one who will completely satisfy.
A permanent companion who will never leave me alone.
A reliable friend who will never disappoint and has all my trust.
He alone will walk with me for a lifetime. He not only knows everything about me, but also loves everything about me. All the good and the bad… He loves and cares for them all. He knows the depth of my tears and laughter. He understands every fiber of my being.
For so many years, I chased after man’s approval, to find out that I can never earn it, without putting on so many fake layers of who I am not and will never be. Once I surrendered those efforts at the foot of the cross, relationships did not become easier, but an indescribable peace covered them. The overwhelming anxiety I felt from fear of betrayal or the attacking thoughts of who dislikes me and won’t accept me have all disappeared. In its place I discovered a comforting space full of God’s love and friendship.
He extends the invitation to you: “will you entrust me with all your hurt, fears, and vulnerabilities and call me your Best Friend?”
Will you accept it?